Release the Pressure to prove and rediscover the joy of living

guiding you from functioning on autopilot to feeling authentically fulfilled in your relationships and God-given purpose.

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You’re the high-functioning, capable one, responsible one, and dependable one. Your life looks fine on paper, you’re doing everything you should, but you still feel empty.

You’re living from someone else’s script of joy.

When we don’t know:

Who am I?
What do I actually want?
What am I supposed to do with my life?

Pressure starts to decide for you, making you feel like you need to get it right, keep everyone happy, and get everything done to prove you're enough.

This stress causes you to try and control situations to make you feel safe, hiding behind the versions of yourself you think you need to be in order to belong, feel competent, and have a choice…

If you fear rejection

You automatically say yes, suppress your needs and prioritize everyone else, leaving you feeling disconnected.

You’re people-pleasing, trying to control opinions.

If you fear inadequacy

You stay perpetually busy to feel accomplished and push yourself to do everything all the time, leaving you feeling exhausted.

You’re performing, trying to control output.

If you fear failure

You constantly overthink and struggle to make decisions because you're afraid of getting it wrong, leaving you feeling stuck.

You’re procrastinating, trying to control outcomes.

We get so used to living this way that we begin functioning on autopilot. When controlling becomes your default way of coping, you can start self-abandoning, keeping you from the authentic healthy relationships, healthy rest, and healthy risk-taking that will actually make you feel fulfilled. This prolonged self-abandonment causes us to stay in a cycle of burnout.

These aren't character flaws, they're protective coping patterns.

But you don’t need to fix your coping patterns (more capacity, more clarity, or better communication skills) you need to give up control so you can stop functioning on autopilot and live joyfully again.

Are You Living On Autopilot Quiz

You weren’t meant to manage your life and hold it all together, but jesus came so that you may have life, and have it to the full. John 10:10

Hi, I’m Kaley.

and I've been that high-functioning person.

I was responsible, capable, and dependable - and still found myself burnout, exhausted, disconnected, and stuck. During ministry school, the Lord began using the story of Martha and Mary to show me something I desperately needed to learn:

I didn't have to live my life with the pressure to prove my worth.

That rest isn’t lazy, needs aren’t selfish, and mistakes aren’t failure.

So I got my PhD in Psychological and Counseling Studies and certification as a life coach and Gallup CliftonStrengths Coach to put language to what I was experiencing—which eventually led me to create the Four A's of Authenticity Framework: Awareness, Acceptance, Alignment, and Accountability so that I could help others do the same thing.

Your Joy Journey

From Control to Cultivation

Stop abandoning yourself by stressfully trying to controlling outcomes, the opinions of others, and your output. Learn to steward who God uniquely created you to be.

A 10-session 1:1 coaching journey through the Four A's of Authenticity, plus 2 CliftonStrengths coaching sessions to help you cultivate a fulfilling life.

awareness

0 Identity, understanding values, strengths, gifts, motivations, and fears

Acceptance

0 Understand yourself without shame.

Alignment

0 Clarify what matters and make choices that reflect it.

accountability

0 Practice those choices in real life.

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If you aren’t ready to commit to 1-on-1 coaching and you want a more self-directed and self-paced option, click below!

The 4 A's of Authenticity Workbook

Testimonies of Hope

  • I learned of Joie De Vivre Coaching from a friend who raved about Kaley and encouraged me to reach out. I had hit a point in my life where I was mentally exhausted from feeling like a prisoner to my own thoughts, overthinking and people pleasing. From the initial call, Kaley made me feel understood, seen and confident that we would work through my goals together. Kaley gave me the most insightful feedback and practical tools so that I could get to where I needed to be mentally and emotionally. I am forever grateful for the wisdom Kaley imparted on me during our sessions and I have felt freer and stronger since. I took notes during every session and have found myself often referring back to what Kaley shared with me as it has helped reshape my mind positively. Kaley made me feel important as she checked in often in between sessions and always encouraged me to reach out if I needed support. In this last year, meeting with Kaley has been a highlight for me and I feel like a new woman since learning to free myself of the overthinking and people pleasing.

    -Suzanne M.

  • "I had trouble with work and direction which was causing a lot of stress and discouragement. I decided to reach out to Kaley to help me understand the situation better. Our session was incredibly eye opening as she took me through my strengths and identified where my frustrations, lack of motivation and stress came from. After identifying my strengths and key drivers I have felt empowered and enabled to understand and take responsibility for my needs in order to get them met in a healthy way so that balance can be restored. Our session was incredibly fruitful, and I am so thankful for her knowledge, wisdom, empathy and skill."

    -Rosie C.

  • "Recently, I took a break from working, and life coaching with Kaley was a key experience during this time. Kaley saw me through a strengths based perspective that was so helpful in creating a personal toolbox for my life. I always think back to the time she said, "Amazing, that is viable," when talking about my dreams because such a simple sentence transformed the way I saw what was possible for my own self. Her expert direction and encouraging nature made it a safe place for me to open up about where I'm at and where I'd like to be in the future. I'm 10/10 confident in recommending Kaley to anyone who is considering life coaching because of the leaping, invaluable gains it will leave them."

    -Amazing G.

  • “PRIOR TO WORKING WITH KALEY THERE WERE ASPECTS OF MYSELF THAT I NEVER QUITE UNDERSTOOD. BUT WITH HER COACHING, I FEEL MORE AWARE OF HOW I’M DESIGNED AND WHY I DO THE THINGS THAT I DO. NOW I AM BETTER ABLE TO IDENTIFY MY NEEDS IN PROFESSIONAL AND PERSONAL SITUATIONS THAT WILL LEAVE ME FEELING EMPOWERED AND FULL OF LIFE!”

    -Alisha H.

  • “I WORKED WITH KALEY ON THE STRENGTHS ASSESSMENT AND I LEARNED SO MUCH ABOUT MYSELF. SHE EXPLAINED EACH STRENGTH TO ME AND ASKED FOLLOW UP QUESTIONS TO HELP ME DISCOVER NEW FACETS OF MY PERSONALITY. I HIGHLY RECOMMEND THIS TO ANYONE WHO WANTS TO HARNESS THEIR STRENGTHS TO BE MORE PRODUCTIVE AND CREATIVE IN ALL ASPECTS OF LIFE.”

    -Hannah P.

  • “BEFORE I STARTED MEETING WITH KALEY, I WAS IN A PLACE OF FEELING STUCK AND THAT MY LIFE WAS NOT MOVING FORWARD HOW I WANTED IT TO. AFTER WE STARTED MEETING SHE HELPED SHOW ME WHAT MY STRENGTHS ARE AND HOW I CAN USE THEM IN MY LIFE NOW AND TO START MY FUTURE. SHE HAS HELPED ME GET A PLAN AND AN IDEA OF HOW TO MOVE FORWARD IN MY LIFE.”

    -Leah T.

I also work with young people.

Helping young people understand themselves, connect with others, and grow with confidence in their calling.

Through psychology-informed workshops, mentoring, coaching, and other youth experiences, I help young people explore:

Identity • Wellbeing • Relationships • Purpose

Whether it's a church youth group, school, or youth organization, I help turn psychology and personal development into experiences that are interactive, practical, and actually fun.

Click below to listen to my podcast, where I have honest, unfiltered conversations about the uncomfortable—but freeing—process of getting off autopilot and learning to live authentically.

The Uncomfortably Candid Podcast